By Vicki Molinari

I cringed when I heard the young mother shout at her son.  As she wrestled to get him in the shopping cart, it was obvious he had pushed her beyond a calm reprimand.  Her words were harsh.  By the look on the young boy's face she was successful in crushing his spirit, but not necessarily his behavior.

Our words are powerful.  Each word we speak should be chosen carefully.    

Words can build others up and speak life.  I love a good, praiseful comment, don't you?  My dad used to call them, "Atta-girls".  He would say, "Atta-girl Vicki, you did a great job washing the windows".  And because I desired to please my dad more than anything else in the world, I would do my best to behave in ways that brought me praise.

Unfortunately, when under pressure our responses to life's happenings often produce undesirable words.  Harsh words speak death and have the ability to crush the person's spirit.  Sadly, these words cannot be taken back. 

 I would love to say I have victory in this area, always giving praise and kind words but that would not be true.  Many times I have blown it.  It is never too late, however to apologize to the person on the receiving end, whether a child or an adult.  Ask for forgiveness.  It diffuses the possible damage any harsh words spoken may cause. 

What about our idle words?  Seemingly innocent conversations with our family and friends can quickly turn into damaging gossip sessions if we are not careful. 

What about social media? Words written and read by so many people have the ability to draw them unto Him.  We can address the issue without attacking the person, even when we are passionate about the matter at hand.   

According to Nick Watts, a British documentary filmmaker and his colleagues, after a study performed in 2007 found the average person would speak 123,205,750 words in a lifetime, creating a 5-volume opus “filled with love, sadness, and triumph.  The average person speaks 4,300 words per day.

Words matter.  We will be remembered for the things that we speak.  What will your opus relay?

Proverbs 16:24 says "Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones". 

Let's be determined to let our 4,300 daily words result in life, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.   

Let's be determined to let our 4,300 daily words result in life, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.