Barriers & Boundaries


Kellie Tipton

I have always thought that having children helped me focus on what was important, kept me out of trouble and on my knees.

My oldest daughter was one who especially kept me on my knees and my toes for that matter!  She walked at nine months and crawled out of the crib by 13 months and is the reason that to this day my parents have sliding bolt locks at each door.  We had to always think ahead or there was potential for her to hurt herself. 

When she was almost three years old, we were given a huge gift by both sets of grandparents.  A swing set and a six foot fence that wrapped around it and connected to our back door.   What was a barrier for her was freedom to me!  You see by this time I had three children under three and it was busy all.the.time. 

I loved that fence because I could open the back door and let her and her brother play while I cared for their new sister.  So many fun and precious memories happened within that six foot fence. 

It was in this season that I read a lot of books and was in the midst of training her and her brother and learned that she was not my strong willed child, (another took that role!) 

It was interesting to watch how she saw the world and also made me so aware of how much she needed boundaries and barriers.  She did try to climb that six foot fence and almost made it I might add but I knew that fence gave me time to get to her!

She saw the fence as a barrier and she was missing out, and I was taking moments to show her that she needed to slow down, listen to my instructions and trust me. 

Over the years there would be times of barriers and times of boundaries and as a young adult I see the fruit of those times of instruction.

I feel like God brings us through seasons where instead of a boundary, He creates a barrier to protect us.  We may see it as a problem and focus on what we think we are missing, when God wants us to slow down, listen to His instructions and trust Him. 

He may be protecting you from being hurt or it could be a time of healing.  Whatever it may be, we would be wise to slow down, listen and trust Him. 

5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart;
    do not depend on your own understanding.
6 Seek his will in all you do,
    and he will show you which path to take.

7 Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom.
    Instead, fear the Lord and turn away from evil.
8 Then you will have healing for your body
    and strength for your bones.


Proverbs 3:5-8 (NLT)