Only Jesus Can

Only Jesus Can

By Audrey Botts

Sometimes when the Lord has something to say He will use different ways to get our attention.  Dreams are one of the ways the Lord will speak to you. 

Early in my marriage I was struggling with issues that my husband and I could not fix.  We both prayed for our marriage and we asked the Lord for his intervention. 

Well the Lord spoke to me through a dream that I will never forget.  Jesus opened my eyes to the right way of seeing things. 

All my life I had a wrong perception of what a husband was supposed to be.  I had this fairy tale impression that a husband was supposed to be a knight in shining armor.  The one to rescue me from this lonely cruel world.   He would be the one to make me happy and solve all my problems.  I expected him to meet all my expectations that he obviously could not meet.  Nobody could.  

With my unmet expectations of my husband I soon developed feelings of bitterness, jealousy, and fear of being unloved.  These feelings were consuming me and I was struggling.   I did not know what to do.  The enemy was causing division in our marriage and I was letting the devil win.

Through the dream the Lord revealed to me that my marriage was at risk of being destroyed by my wrong thinking.  The devil was using my bitterness, jealousy and fear as fuel for the fire.  He loves to destroy marriages and families in this way.  

I was expecting my husband to fulfill a role that was only meant for Jesus to fill.  My husband was only human and I had him on a pedestal that he was never meant to sit on.  I needed to give him grace in areas where I felt he fell short.  I needed to pray for my husband and keep him lifted up in prayer.  

I know that I am not perfect, so how can I expect that from anyone else.  I do know one that is perfect and that is Jesus. 

It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in people.”  Psalm 118:8

Marriages and families are not perfect.  We all have problems.  I am so grateful that my Father in heaven was so concerned for my life that He spoke to me and help save my marriage from disaster. 

I know He cares for all His children and will do the same for you.  I have placed my hope and trust in Jesus and I encourage you to do the same.  So wives and husbands pray for your spouses and your families.   Keep them lifted up to the Lord.  We cannot fight this battle alone.  Only Jesus can.