Make New Friends but Keep the Old...!

Make New Friends but Keep the Old….!

Robin Houde

“Make new friends but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold.” 

This was a favorite childhood rhyme of mine. It was so much fun to sing this as we children played, but I’m learning as an adult, it isn’t necessarily true. 

As I grow more mature in the Lord, God is showing me that some of my relationships are not so good for me and that I need to let go of them. 

I’ve had to let go of some friendships that appeared to be good but were actually extremely mentally and emotionally exhausting. Once I recognized these friendships for what they were I realized that I had to just let go of them. 

They were not the type of people that God wanted me to have in my life. It wasn’t that they were bad or sinful relationships, but they weren’t helping me grow as a person or as a Christian. 

It wasn’t easy letting go of decades of relationships but I knew I had to let go so God could ‘grow’ me. 

What I’ve found is that if I don’t obey His direction and find a way to let go of some of the friendships I’ve had then He will take them out of my life another way. 

I recently found much clarification on this topic of letting go from a Propel series called “Growth”. The study taught me that sometimes God has to cut things out of our lives to make room so that we can grow.

John 15:1-5 says “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that doesn’t bear fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit He prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in Me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself, it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in Me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Meyou can do nothing.”

Letting go can also pertain to serving. Sometimes we have a hard time saying no when asked to assist or get involved. Well, at least I have a hard time saying no. 

Satan loves to keep us busy, doesn’t he! It’s a good idea to assess your success in every area. Take a step back and make sure you’re not doing things that God hasn’t told you to do and also see if you’re neglecting anything He has really asked you to do. 

It’s easy to say yes especially when it comes to serving in ministry or for your family but even if it’s a good thing you’re doing, it still may not be God’s thing. 

If what you’re doing doesn’t bring you joy, or doesn’t line up with His word, and it’s not producing any fruit then you may need to ‘prune’ it out of your schedule. 

Serving God isn’t so much about doing less but more about doing your best. If we keep ourselves so busy that at the end of the day we’re so exhausted that we have nothing left to give God then chances are we need to reassess.