Set Up Your Boundaries

Set up your Boundaries

By Audrey Botts

In my walk with the Lord, I have encountered people I was led to reach out to help.  Some experiences were successful and others were not.  

Over the years, the Lord taught me to set boundaries so that I would be able to help or love to a certain point and step back when the intervention required only His actions alone.  

It’s harder when it comes to family and even then, God calls us to step back and pray for His will to be done. Having family members with drug or alcohol addictions is not an easy road to walk. 

You love and try to help them, but they continue with their self –destructive sin.   They start to lose their friends, their jobs, and even family lose hope and give up on them. Addicts want to get better, but they are overcome by their weaknesses and give in to addiction.   

Right now, I struggle with a family member who has a dependence on alcohol and drugs.  The only way to help them is to step back and not enable their sin. 

One way to enable sin is to rescue them from the consequences of their bad choices like repeatedly getting them out of jail or giving them money that ends up going toward their addictions.   

Consequences to sin are God’s way of teaching us right from wrong.  That’s how we learn.  It’s difficult to step back and watch someone fall.  You wonder if you are doing the right thing, but if you do not set up boundaries that honor God, you will grow weary and be defeated.  

Wikipedia defines personal boundaries: are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.

1Timothy 5:22

“Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, nor take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure.”

You have to remember that as a believer in Christ, you are dealing with demonic influence over your loved one. They have chosen to allow this in their life and now they have to figure out a way to get rid of it.  If they allow themselves to be healed, there is nothing Christ cannot overcome.  

So, stay in prayer for their healing.  The Lord will find a way to destroy this addiction, if that person allows Him to. Sometimes, you just have to get out of God’s way!!!


God, I pray for those reading this and can relate to my heart’s cry to you.  Help them release this burden and heal those afflicted with addictions to drugs or alcohol.  In your mighty name we pray.  Amen.